Fostering Likability

Regardless of your age, gender, sexuality, or physical and mental health, you and everyone around you needs love and affection.  Receiving love and affection has benefits for the mind, the heart, and society. Your confidence and self-esteem significantly increase, in addition to aiding you in maintaining satisfying, long-lasting relationships.

So being likable has a certain advantage. How can one become lovable? Everyone possesses both lovable and imperfect qualities. There are moments when it seems like some people are just affable by nature. What are those endearing qualities, then, and what flaws exist? 

Happiness and Positivism are Contagious : Everyone is looking for getting infected. Be that Personality who can spread those.

According to Fowler, happiness of an immediate social contact increases an individual's chances of becoming happy by 15%, The happiness of a second-degree contact, such as the spouse of a friend, increases the likeliness of becoming happy by 10%, and the happiness of a third-degree contact -- or the friend of a friend of a friend -- increases the likelihood of becoming happy by 6%. While having more friends also made people happier, having happy friends had a significantly greater positive impact. Emotional contagion refers to the fact that emotions are contagious.

Everyone searches for such happy encounters on an unconscious level. By simply raising this number of contented pals, we want to optimise our happiness index. So People are with you if you are such a personality.

Attitude is a mind set. It is the way you look at things mentally. A mind that predominantly thinks about positive things will show itself as having a positive attitude.

We all have a propensity to reflect the people we are around. Mirror Neurons, a type of brain structure, provide a scientific explanation for the contagious nature of emotions. Your brain has cells that imitate other people's feelings in an effort to comprehend and interpret them. Because mirror neurons are extremely quick and operate outside of our conscious control, it is very difficult to refrain from  laughing when you see someone else do so.

A cheerful attitude is also associated with excellent health and the capacity to manage stress, according to study done by psychologists in the late 1980s. A cheerful outlook energises you as well as those around you. A negative attitude, on the other hand, saps your vitality and the energy of everyone you come into touch with. Positive Thinking Spreads Like Wildfire .The bad news is that so is negativity and a long range of unproductive emotions.

And regrettably, negative energy rules the planet. Positive attitudes are really hard to come by. According to one study, parents make an average of 432 negative words per day at home, or 18 negative statements for every good one, according to Charles Thompson's book "What a Great Idea!"

Be the elusive diamond that has the power to heal anyone who comes into contact with it.

Listening with an open mind : Listen to show that you care

Communication relies on active listening. You may become a better leader by paying close attention to understand. "Simply staring firmly and lovingly at that person, nodding occasionally, and repeating what you heard will stimulate an empathic, mirror-neuron reaction in both of you," claims the author of Getting What You Want and Resolving Conflict Sooner. In other words, listening well makes us more compassionate. People can tell you're interested when you take the time to listen to them. They can tell that you care about what they have to say. They feel more at ease telling you things and being honest because of this. Nobody wants to talk to someone who doesn't pay attention to them.

According to Harvard Review Report, "Giving and receiving undivided attention, even briefly, is the least that one individual can do for another — and sometimes the most. And yet, attending to others doesn’t just help them — it helps us, by evoking responses that help the listener feel cared for, useful, and connected to the larger world. Paying attention may be an individual effort, but it’s also a kind of social cement that holds groups together and helps them feel part of something greater than themselves." . 

One of the most frequent consequences of bad communication is misunderstandings. It's incredibly simple to misunderstand anything or take someone's meaning in the wrong way when individuals aren't paying attention to one another. The key to developing empathy is having a deeper grasp of the other person's perspective when you hear things directly from them.

When a friend is going through a painful situation, lend an ear and a warm hug, but skip the advice. Your hug, smile and willingness to listen will mean a lot more than advice

Being open-minded is another crucial component. You become personable and fascinating to others as a result. Nobody likes to talk to someone who is unwilling to listen and has already made an opinion. This doesn’t require you believe what they believe or accept their behavior, it simply means you don't pass judgment long enough  to fully comprehend what makes people tick. Only then can you let them be who they are.

Empathy

Empathy is the ability to understand things from another person's perspective. It's the capacity to identify with and comprehend the emotions and sentiments of another person.

Practically every area of daily living benefits from empathy. It enables us to relate to friends, loved ones, coworkers, and complete strangers. The other parties in relationships will suffer when people solely consider their own interests. No two people will ever think exactly the same way or experience the same things in the same way. People will probably feel unwanted and uncared for if we don't endeavour to understand one another's opinions and feelings.

Albert Einstein said, "Peace cannot be kept by force; it can only be achieved by understanding."

Without compassionate empathy, the world would be a much darker and less functional place to live

According to study, 98% of people can empathise with others by nature. Most of us are born with this talent. Psychopaths, narcissists, and sociopaths are the few exceptions; these individuals are unable to comprehend or relate to the feelings and emotions of others. it's also true that empathy is a skill that can be increased or decreased

According to research, Having Luxurious living decreases empathy. When you are in an agreeable and comfortable situation it is more difficult to empathize with another person’s suffering. 

Understanding the distinction between empathy and sympathy is also crucial since "empathy creates connection while sympathy drives disconnection." "Rarely can a response make something better, what makes things better is connection," says Brene Brown.

ātmaupamyena sarvatra samaṁ paśhyati yo ’rjuna

sukhaṁ vā yadi vā duḥkhaṁ sa yogī paramo mataḥ - Gita Chapter 6 verse 32

I regard them to be perfect yogis who see the true equality of all living beings and respond to the joys and sorrows of others as if they were their own.

Confidence : Aura that attracts

An asset that shines through interpersonal relationships is confidence. People are drawn to an aura of confidence. Many people struggle with low self-esteem, thus they are drawn to those who exude confidence. In an effort to emulate their vigour, they seek to understand how these people live their life.

Because they are confident in themselves and aren't easily distracted, confident people prefer to think positively. They accept life's challenges as they come and respond appropriately. When you lack confidence, your thoughts are constantly clouded by doubt and uncertainty. That prevents you from attempting new things and, if it has an impact on your self-esteem, it will prevent you from making new friends and enlarging your social network.

Consistency, Sincerity and Truthful Intent

In a study conducted at UCLA, subjects rated over 500 adjectives based on their perceived significance to likability. The top-rated adjectives had nothing to do with being gregarious, intelligent, or attractive (innate characteristics). Instead, the top adjectives were sincerity, transparency, and capacity for understanding (another person). To be likeable, one must be sincere and honest. Nobody enjoys a fake. Since they know they can trust them, people are drawn to honest people. When you don't know someone's true self or how they truly feel, it can be challenging to like them.

People like to know who they are dealing with and what kind of response they may anticipate when they contact you. To be consistent, one must be dependable and make sure that their behaviour toward others is unaffected by their emotional swings.